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Grieving Wrong Turns
Every loss requires healing
You may experience immense sadness
even when the “wrong” thing ends.
Relationships and roles that —
didn’t serve your true self
still played a real part,
shaping you now.
Grieving heals.
You can
cry.
Grief is confusing. One, it never follows a singular track; instead, it winds about cyclically — just when we think we’ve left anger behind — boom, we’re right back in it!
The path to acceptance is a rocky one. Twisting and turning, we must find our way toward it. Grief is personal.
Yet, like all things sacred to the individual — outside opinion lurks in the doorway, waiting to express itself in the most unhelpful manner, mandating:
how you should grieve and for how long,
who and what deserves your grief, even
where it is appropriate to feel the grief.
Some years ago, after I left a toxic, seven-year relationship — I shared my decision with a close friend. I’ll never forget the pure glee in her voice when laughing; she proclaimed, “That’s the best news; I am so happy for you!”
